from the dear kelly column. friends are very important in life. what is important to bear in mind is that we need to be able to identify the qualities of a true friend. if you know what you are looking for in a friend, then you probably face fewer disappointments. i warn you that if you settle for shallow, flighty, petty people, then don't expect them to stand by you when you are in need. the first thing to do is to list the qualities you expect in a good friend. it may not be easy identify all the important qualities. to help you, i will list some of the most important ones. these include RESPECT, HONESTY, AN ABILITY TO REALLY CARE AND SHARE, common interests, A WILLINGNESS TO LISTEN, the ability to sympathise and empathise and TO BE THERE FOR ONE ANOTHER IN GOOD TIMES AND, ESPECIALY, BAD. i also highlight a WILLINGNESS TO MAKE SACRIFICES AND BEING PREPARED TO STAND BY YOUR FRIEND AND PROTECT THIS PERSON FROM THE UNKINDNESS OF OTHERS. you may add more or substract from this list, but immediately after you have listed the qualities you want in a friend, highlight those you possess. you must be honest with yourself. if you don't possess the qualities you deem important, how can you demand someone else to live up to your expectations? you have now learnt one important aspect of friendship - it is a two-way process. one cannot do all the taking and expect the other to just keep giving. selfish people will, in the end, destroy even the most loving of friendships. this goes for married couples too. some people are fair weather friends. they are there when all is well and will desert you when trouble brews. others hang out with you simply because they want something. it could be your polylarity that helps them share the limelight or your wealth or position in society or even the talent you possess. beware of those who use your ideas and pass them off as their own. such people may lack moral fibre and may let you down because they know you know the truth and may fear you. it is ironic how often people you help tend to shy away after you have helped hem. they preferto pretend you do not exist after a while. you may be one of those generous people who render help when it is needed and want nothing in return. being of help is its own reward. friends like these should be treasured if you are so lucky to come across such altruistic people. rich people find it easier to make 'friends', but the wise among them know that many of their socalled friends are merely using them. many famous socially prominent people are often sad because deep down they know that they are surrounded by users. they'd be dumped if one day they lost their position and wealth. true friendship is never based on externals like money, looks and position, all of which can easily be lost. true friends value qualities that are precious and don't diminish with the passing of time. don't aim to have many friends. often most of them should really be referred to as acquaintances. some people say, ' i have two good friends'. wow! you are blessed if you have two good friends. don't go for quantity; go for quality when it comes to friendship. the most cherished gift you can have is a sincere friend. if you find such a person, treasure him or her because a real friend is priceless. i wish you happiness in the company of good loving friends. best wishes. kelly
thought for the month it is easy to say 'i'll stand by my friend.' but how many have the moral strength to do so? it is easy to pledge loyalty in good times when all's well, but it is the true friend who will stand by you when things don't go so well. be discerning when you choose a friend - the right choice will mean a lot when the chips are down. kelly
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